Don’t believe everything you think
This post is an excerpt from Outgrow Your Autopilot, my latest mini-eBook.
Over the last week…
How often did you find yourself being held back by the ongoing chatter from the mind?
How often did you talk yourself out of an opportunity, postpone an important decision or convincing yourself you’re less skilled, or worthy than others?
How often did you find yourself reacting instinctively upon others or situations?
These forms of ignorant and defensive behaviours are a product of the ‘lower-level mind’, the system behind your ‘autopilot’. It’s responding to the ever-growing amount of impulses and expectation of today’s world.
Overstimulated and, consequently, trying to keep you away from doing anything new or challenging.
Whatever is challenging you, it’s during those times that your level of emotional intelligence determines whether your decisions will help you to evolve or repeat your experiences.
We often believe that some kind of external factor will change the way we experience and cope with others and situations. However, as a High-Performance Strategist, I’ve found that the biggest challenges we face are the blind spots and ego barriers we’ve created ourselves.
These barriers make you defensive — especially when it comes to the subject of how good you are — and prevent you from seeing things — including yourself — accurately.
Without an adequate level of self-awareness, you’re most likely to become a slave to your own thinking, finding yourself recycling the experience, over and over again. Blindly taking all the unhelpful comments as your truth, affecting your mood and attitude towards life, but ultimately, your decision making, which will turn your limiting self-talk into a self-fulfilling prophecy.
My point is, if you find yourself recycling the same experiences, you may want to modify the script of your own story-telling. Here’s a 6 step approach to get you started:
- Identify your thoughts and emotions as they occur.
- Backtrack until you get the immediate cause of your them.
- Play detective until you get to your underlying belief/value/insecurity.
- Acknowledge that these are beliefs and automated responses, not truths, nor you.
- Setting a clear intention on who you want to be and what your best-self would do, think, act and/or consider. Also known as WWBSD, What Would Best-Self Do.
If this topic resonates with you, you may as well want to read the article ‘Outgrow Your Autopilot’, in which I share my perspective and learnings, along with evidence-based strategies and 4 daily practices to help you Outgrow Your Autopilot.
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